Young parents will often ask for our advice regarding how to discipline their children. When we hear that question, we usually pause. The pause is because we think there are a few conversations you should have first. This series highlights three of those conversations...
Discipline is primarily focused on stopping certain behaviors. If we had to describe discipline in one word, it would be “NO”. While discipline is definitely needed, if it's all you have, it won’t do what you want it to! One of the most life-giving things a family can do is to identify your "Family YES". Who do you want to be as a family? What are you pursuing? When you identify your "Family YES", discipline is no longer just punishment...it becomes purposeful.
Most parents spend the majority of their time reacting to the attitudes and actions of their children. As.a result, our satisfaction is often dependent on their behavior. This is exhausting and often can leave you hopeless. After identifying your "Family YES", we encourage parents to not discipline your children for things that you haven't sufficiently trained them in. This change in perspective shifts us away from constantly reacting and towards a culture of consistently initiating by teaching and training towards our "Family YES".
Parents are known to say the following: "How many times have I told you that?!" Sadly, this statement is usually connected to expressing disappointment or disapproval at a child's actions. The third conversation in this series serves as a reminder that we need to be intentional to celebrate who our children are in greater measure than we complain about who they are not.